Loving others is a step toward self love, until it's not....
There are times where we forget to look inside..
Instead, we think that some thing or someone will help us feel better.
Unbeknownst to us we become distracted.
Hiding the broken parts, that need to be most seen. Most tended to.
In those moments of pretending that we are not enough, pretty enough, smart enough, strong enough.....we hope that the mirror which we called the beloved will help us see ourselves more clearly. More lovingly.
But as long as we are outward focus, our inner development is postponed.
We cannot give to others what we have not fully given to ourselves.
Until we remember that.... our self love remains conditional. Conditioned on the love...of the other.