G3: Grieving Grief's Gift

As a theologian, educator, and psychologist, I often observe a silent, growing epidemic of suffering. This suffering manifests in tense expressions among friends, the quiet confusion of clients, and our society's collective anxiety. The root cause often comes from one profound source: we have not learned how to speak about grief.

We tend to view grief as a problem to fix, a hurt to soothe, or something to hide away. It can feel like an unwelcome guest at life's event. But what if we’ve misunderstood this guest entirely?

At Nativ Elementz, we draw from ancient wisdom : the indigenous, earth-based understanding that teaches us about humanity. From this deep-rooted knowledge, we discover that grief is not a burden; it is a sacred gift. The challenge lies in understanding what is truly happening in these moments.

The Illusion of Loss: When the Stream Changes Course

We often say we experience loss. We may lose our jobs, homes, or loved ones. The term "loss" implies a mistake or void, fostering a sense of scarcity and punishment.

However, indigenous wisdom teaches that creation is an endless cycle, exuberantly abundant. When a familiar aspect of our lives changes, it is not a punishment; it is a moment of transformation.

Let’s take a practical example.

In today’s world, if you lose your job, you might perceive it as a personal failure, a gap in your life. Now, think back to a time as a hunter-gatherer. If a stream you regularly visit for water suddenly changes course, instead of feeling loss, you see it as a shift in the natural environment. You quickly adapt, searching for new water sources and learning to navigate these changes.

A serene stream flowing through a vibrant forest

This shift in perspective matters. Viewing changes as losses traps us in a story of lack. Life is a continuous cycle of transformation, where endings often herald new beginnings.

The Illusion of Bodily Transformation as an End

Another misconception is believing bodily changes signify an end. We often equate aging, illness, or death with finality, leading to despair. We cling to the physical as our only identity.

Indigenous wisdom shows us that transformation is natural. Like the seasons, our bodies and experiences evolve. Each stage of life carries its own gifts, and with every end comes the chance for new beginnings.

Think of a tree shedding its leaves in autumn. To an untrained observer, it might seem the tree is dying. Yet it prepares for rest, gathering strength for the bloom of spring.

Vibrant autumn leaves clinging to a branch

Recognizing that transformation isn't an end, but a transition helps us view grief as a renewal process instead of a painful conclusion. Grief can be a bridge connecting us to our past while leading us toward new possibilities.

Reframing Grief: A Sacred Gift

How do we start changing our view of grief? The first step is accepting it as a natural part of life. Grief doesn’t need to be feared or avoided; it is a profound expression of love.

When we "lose" something dear, we realize the depth of our relationships and the impact they have on us. Grief allows us to honor those connections, reflect on our experiences, and find meaning in them.

At Nativ Elementz, we encourage individuals to engage with their grief thoughtfully. This can involve participating in rituals, sharing stories, or simply allowing ourselves to feel our emotions. By making space for grief, we turn it from a burden into a source of strength and wisdom.

A peaceful forest path inviting reflection and contemplation

Embracing the Journey Ahead

In a world that sometimes seeks to silence grief, we must reclaim its place in our lives. By understanding the illusions of loss and finality, we come to see grief as a sacred gift : a powerful teacher guiding us through life’s complexities.

As we traverse our own paths of grief, let us draw from ancient wisdom that reminds us of life's abundance and the beauty of transformation. Grief isn't the end; it's a vital part of our human experience, encouraging us to grow and heal.

By accepting grief, we unlock renewal and connection, honoring the past while stepping into the future. Together, we can learn the language of grief, turning our suffering into a profound understanding of being human.

Doc Rain